Why does women lose interest in having sex with their husbands

There are many married couples who display their pictures on social media that portray them as “happy couples,” but who are also living with a troubling secret: little or no sexual intimacy. Although they appear happy outside, but it is all sugar-coated. For many married women, loss of interest in love-making is a major hidden problem for them. Unfortunately, in the midst of so many demands of life, it is only a very few of them that talk about their problem. While men are generally more readily physiologically aroused than women, low sexual desire also occurs in men. When it comes to low or total loss of sexual desire, it is not restricted to gender, race or color. It can affect all people of different age group and gender. Diminished sexual desire can strain and stress a relationship. But in this article, we want to answer the question, “Why does women lose interest in having sex with their husbands?

Physical Causes: Studies have shown that there are a wide range of illnesses, physical changes, and medication that can cause a low sex drive in women. Certain medicines especially the antidepressants are known to lower sex drive in women. Not getting enough sleep at night can crush sexual desire too. Exhaustion from taking care of their children, fatigue from doing all kinds of work, fatigue from illness too can play a role in affecting the sexual drive of a woman. Heavy drinking of alcohol can adversely affect sexual drive. Change in a woman’s hormone levels may alter sex drive. This can occur during menopause as estrogen levels drop thereby causing dry vaginal tissue and painful sex. Pain during sex or inability to reach orgasm can also reduce desire for sex.

Emotional causes: The emotional state of a woman can affect her sexual desire. Some of the psychological causes of low sex drive are stress from work or family pressure. Since we live in a vain culture that encourages the notion of perfect body, women who think they don’t have this perfect body may feel defective or physically inadequate, and this can diminish sexual desire as well. A feeling of imperfect body and other troubling issues like job stress, peer pressure, media images can cause negatively influence sexual desire for women.

Relationship Struggles: Women want to be loved. They want to feel loved. They want attention, respect, faithfulness, and care. They want tender loving care (TLC). Women find it difficult to feel intimately connected with their husbands when they feel emotionally disconnected. If the man is not playing his role well as the husband, provider and father, it is very hard for most women to warm up to him. When there is a serious ongoing problems in the family, sexual intimacy opens the window and flees. Sexual intimacy takes a flight when there are unresolved conflicts, quarrels, fights, trust issues, lack of care, prolonged hardship, poor communication, total disrespect of the woman. The husband’s performance in bed problems, lack of emotional satisfaction with the relationship, the birth of a child, and becoming a caregiver for a loved one can decrease sexual desire.




In my next edition, i will attempt to offer you what you can do that can potentially lead to increase of sexual desire. Watch out for it.